Hi, my name is Lisa and I recently went through IVF. I became a mother at the age of 40 and am blessed to have our miracle baby girl who is now 10 months old. Having been through this process I understand how overwhelming everything can seem at first. Here are a few things I learned along the way and encourage others to consider if they are beginning their first cycle.
- The opportunity to be connected with other women who had either gone through infertility treatments or were going through it at that time—–
It was by chance I had a few other friends who were also experiencing infertility challenges, and I was fortunate to form my own mini support group. My openness about what I was going through enabled me to be connected by a local friend to a support group she knew of based in NYC. The value of sisterhood support I had was immeasurable. I encourage you to seek out support groups and would suggest searching online for local ones in your city.
- To be informed of resources and specialists who could support you along this journey—-
I learned of a highly regarded acupuncturist from a technician during one of my ultrasound appointments; I wish I had been able to start seeing him sooner because of the valuable information he shared. Throughout my IVF journey I learned of many other individuals who were invaluable to me through their gifts of energy work and healing through art. Be open to healers, coaches, and therapists who may be able to help guide you on this path.
- Support for the emotional rollercoaster you go through—-
There is little attention given to the varying challenges you experience being on all the medications; No one really addresses the emotional impact. I believe it’s one of the most important factors in giving yourself the best chance of everything working out; If you’re not in a good mindset and able to roll through the low periods then it makes this process that much harder. You need strategies to help yourself through feelings such as depression, shame, loneliness, anger, hopelessness, desperation and fear. Try your best to continue doing things that bring you joy and your body, heart and mind will thank you.
- No one prepares you for the setbacks you may experience, as it doesn’t always happen in the timeframe you may hope—–
Little did I know I would have to have 3 surgeries after my second egg retrieval to prepare my body for our embryo transfer; It was one whole year of waiting. During those months and months of waiting as I healed I learned that there were many things I could not control, but there was a whole lot I COULD control. Try not to be too rigid when things are “supposed” to happen. Everything is happening in the exact timing that is needed to help you get to your ultimate destination.
I feel so passionate about helping individuals through this process. Women don’t need to go through this process alone, and partners are in need of support too. My background as an Occupational Therapist helped prepare me in ways I couldn’t have imagined. I want to empower others on their journey to parenthood, with the help of reproductive medicine, through sharing in my own success strategies and tools. For further support you may contact me at www.IVFManifestingAMiracle.com where you will also find my personal blog. Cheering you all on your path to manifesting your miracles.
Lisa White, OTR/L
Occupational Therapist & IVF Mentor